Don’t Worry About Those Who Talk Behind Your Back

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“Don’t worry about those who talk behind your back, they’re behind you for a reason.”

This quote illustrates how people who waste their time in negative talk about others are losing their focus. To get ahead you need to move beyond petty games and concentrate on the goal. Because people will always talk.

e Personality and Social Psychology Review reported that victims of relational aggression or “covert bullying” have poorer mental health, making them more prone to depression. However, it also provides an opportunity for self-growth that could make a victim develop resilience and a deeper understanding of this phenomenon. Jane Chin PhD’s article entitled “Analyze the Situation, not the Backstabber” offers an interesting perspective on coping with “backstabbers”. She argued that psychological analysis, or understanding why one was backstabbed, is not the most effective method of coping. Instead, situational analysis should be applied to minimize the possibility of future occurrences. This is done by examining how it starts, how it spreads, and how often it happens. This way, the victim can predict and make effective steps to prevent the problem from happening again. She wrote, “a first step in dealing with backstabbing in the workplace is objective analysis of an emotionally charged situation.”

Although being betrayed is a damaging experience that can tempt one to stop trusting anyone, trusting no-one will not improve one’s life. Sherrilyn Kenyon, the author of “Invincible” advised, “Everyone suffers at least one bad betrayal in their lifetime. It’s what unites us. The trick is not to let it destroy your trust in others when that happens. Don’t let them take that from you.”