Never Make Someone A Priority When They Make You An Option

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“Never Make Someone A Priority When They Make You An Option” – Anon

Maya Angelou (1928 – 2014) was a black American bestselling poet and writer. Her 1969 autobiography “I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings” brought her international recognition for addressing the delicate issues on racism and sexism that herself had experienced as an African-American. She was also a civil activist, using her poems and influence to inspire black Americans to stand up against racism.

Although she is known for her political poems and non-fictions, her themes of her works are universal and wide-ranged. She was a firm believer of literacy and independence, as reflected in her autobiographies and speeches. Most importantly, she believed in the importance of surrounding oneself with the right people—people who know your worth.

In this quote, she emphasized the role of self-love in forging healthy relationships. Whether it be friendship or marriage, mutual respect and affection is necessary. Her books focused on the importance of real relationships in surviving in a cruel world. Oprah Winfrey, Angelou’s friend and admirer of her works, delivered a similar message when she said “Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks.”

M. Scott Peck, an American psychiatrist and bestselling author of the book “The Road Less Traveled” said, “Until you value yourself, you won’t value your time, you will not do anything with it.” Relationships are an investment on time and emotion. Like any investments, one should examine first if it’s worth it.